The Relationship Reset That Finally Works—Even If You’re the Only One Doing the Work
🔥EXTREMELY LIMITED-SPOTS FOR THE NEXT 4 WEEKS 🔥
Break the Patterns Sabotaging Your Connection, Communication & Peace: The Proven Method That Transforms Your Marriage—Even If You’re the Only One Doing the Work
You Don't Need More Therapy or More Tools. You Need A Proven Step by Step Method That Transforms Your Marriage From The Inside Out...So You Can Stop Carrying the Relationship and Start Loving It!
You’ve done everything “right.”
You’ve read the books.
Tried the communication scripts.
You’ve softened, stayed strong, spoken calmly, said nothing, said everything.
You’ve asked for what you need—and then stopped asking when it didn’t seem to matter.
You’re holding it together for your family, your marriage, your sanity.
But inside?
You’re tired. Lonely. Done.
And the worst part
You still love your partner.
You want to fix it.
But the more you try, the more the distance grows.
You’re starting to wonder if maybe this is just… how things will be.
I see you.
And I want you to know something bold and true:
You’re not the problem.
You’re just stuck in a pattern you were never taught to name—let alone break.
What If the Problem Wasn’t Communication… But the Pattern Beneath It?
Most people think they just need to:
- “Learn to fight better”
- “Talk more” (or less)
- “Try harder to understand each other?
But you know what?
You’ve already tried all of that.
The real problem?
Your nervous system is stuck in protection mode.
You’re not in partnership—you’re in survival.
And survival doesn’t leave much room for connection, softness, or desire.
You’re running the same emotional patterns on loop:
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Over-functioning, then resenting.
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Avoiding, then exploding.
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Shutting down to keep the peace—then wondering where the passion went.
That’s not love failing.
That’s emotional survival leading the relationship.
Until now.
Introducing
Happily In Love
A 12-week relationship transformation experience to break the emotional patterns keeping you stuck—and help you lead love from a place of power, softness, and deep connection.
Whether your partner joins you or not, this work changes everything because...
It’s Not About Waiting on Your Partner.
It’s about leading the relationship you want to have.
This is for you if:
✅ You’re craving deeper connection, respect, and desire—but it feels out of reach
✅ You’re tired of over-giving and under-receiving
✅ You want real change—but you don’t want to do it alone
✅ You’re willing to look inward, shift patterns, and lead love differently
This is NOT Traditional Couples Therapy
This is the deep work that makes everything else finally work.
In Happily in Love™, we don’t just talk about problems.
We get underneath them.
You’ll be guided through my proven Reveal. Heal. Transform.™ method—designed for high-achieving women and couples who want real, lasting change
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Reveal
You uncover the emotional blueprint silently running the show...often since childhood.
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Finally understand why nothing has worked until now
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Stop blaming Yourself
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Stop blaming him
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And you start seeing and breaking free of the sabotaging patterns really keeping you stuck!
PHASE
01
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PHASE
02
Heal
You shift the meaning, release resentment, and move from reaction to relational power.
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Calm your nervous system in real-time
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Get out of overfuntioning without guilt
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Lead with softness and strength
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Create emotional safety (for both of you)
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Transform
You stop fixing and start leading love differently.
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This is where passion returns
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Where communication feels honest, real & easy
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Where connection happens without trying so hard
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You don't become someone else - you become more of who you really are
Phase
03
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What You'll Walk Away With:
It's about leading the relationship you want to have...not by doing more, but by becoming a magnet for love, adoration and cherishing.
Emotional Pattern Map
You'll get a complete personalized emotional pattern map of your relationship so you can quickly break free of the sabotaging patterns.
Honest, Easy Communication
Bask in the glow of leaving every conversation with your partner feeling heard, understood and truly seen.
Brain-Based Tools
Get the neuropsychological & behavior change tools that will help you to stay calm, connected and confident - even in hard moments.
Clarity
This new way of leading love - with clarity, softness, and sovereignty - will leave you wondering "how did I get so lucky to have this incredible marriage"
Proven Method and Impactful Coaching that Transforms Relationships & Lives
20+
Years of Experiences
685
Marriages Saved
90-Days
To Full Transformation
This is Not For Everyone
The Happily in Love™ Experience is not available to the public. It's private. It's curated. It's application-only and extremely limited.
Because the women who join this sacred space?
- They're already incredible, self-aware, strong women.
- They already lead.
- They don't waste time on cheap promises, quick fixes and wasted months feeling unsatisfied in their lives or relationships...they focus on what will get them the best results.
- They want a system, a step-by-step method that is personalized to them and their unique situation and an expert with a proven success record on their side.
This Is Built for Powerful Women Ready to Finally Feel:
✔️ Safe to be vulnerable again
✔️ Desired, respected, and supported
✔️ In partnership—not power struggle
✔️ Proud of the relationship they’ve built
✔️ Happily in love—with themselves, and with each other
This Isn’t a Quick Fix. It’s a Pattern Break.
And once the pattern is broken?
Everything shifts. Fast
Apply now.
Because this?
This is the thing that finally makes your marriage envy-worthy, and ensures you get the peace, love and passion you desire.
Spots Are Extremely Limited.
I only take a few clients per month - because this program is all about outcomes and results.
If you're seeing this page, it means there may still be a spot left. But the truth?
It might already be gone by the time you finish reading this.
Apply now.
Let's rebuild your marriage in a way that brings you joy, gratitude and true peace and intimacy that you deserve. And we'll do this together in just 90-days!
Meet Val
Valerie Kolick, master relationship coach, is a nationally recognized therapist-turned-mentor for high-achieving women and couples ready to break toxic emotional cycles and lead powerful, love-fueled relationships—without begging, settling, or dragging their partners to therapy.
Known as the creator of the Reveal. Heal. Transform.™ method and founder of Happily in Love™, Valerie has helped hundreds of women transform their marriages from simmering resentment and survival mode into soft, sovereign, magnetic partnerships. Her signature process blends psychology, somatic healing, relational life therapy (RLT) and emotional pattern rewiring to create lasting connection—even when only one partner is willing to do the work.
Valerie’s content, programs, and tools have become a movement for women reclaiming leadership in their love lives, healing deep attachment wounds, and becoming the Pattern Innovator™ their families have waited for.
If you want to shift your relationship fast, without losing yourself—or waiting on someone else to “finally get it”—you’re in the right place. This is love, redefined.
Success Stories from Our Clients
Before the Happily In Love experience, I was ready to leave my marriage. I felt lost and unloved. Now my marriage is back on track, and I'm happy for the first time in ages!
”Before working with Valerie, I struggled with lots of resentments and anger in my relationships and through past hurts. Now I have a deeper and more loving relationship with my husband and family and I have discovered so much about myself that has healed me in countless ways. I feel liberated and free from my past.”
"After working with Valerie our marriage just works so much better. We don't raise our voices at each other anymore - and we resolve problems much quicker, our anxieties have almost disappeared and we don't get defensive anymore. Now, we can focus on creating success & happiness in the rest of our life now that we are secure and happy with our relationship! We have reinvested in our relationship, we are more committed and closer than ever!"
Ready to Transform Your Life?
Why You Should Be Jumping at This Right Now
The pain you are feeling and the growth you are hoping for is too great and too urgent to slowly work through in traditional therapy for months or years.
If you are like me, you want quick, long-lasting and transformative results.
So why aren't you getting them?
Because your current patterns aren't wired to magnetize the connection and intimacy you desire - the kind that feels passionate, loving, and held.
The only missing piece?
😍 Revealing the invisible patterns that are currently keeping you stuck in survival love instead of compassionate love.
😍 Healing that creates calm, peace, and joy throughout your body, mind and relationship.
😍Transformational tools and mindsets that help you become the magnetic woman that your partner rises to meet.
That's what we build together in just 90-days.
This is the Happily In Love Experience. And it's your next (and last) move.
Your Questions, Answered.
“What if my partner doesn’t want to join?”
The Happily in Love™ Experience is designed to work even if only one partner is doing it and the group coaching is for women only. Chances are once your partner starts seeing your change, they will rise up and ask to do the work with you...at that time, just let me know and I'll give them access to all of the trainings for FREE! You’ll see huge shifts either way ...because it only takes one person to break the pattern.
“Is this therapy?”
No. This is relationship transformation rooted in science, nervous system healing, and practical coaching. It’s faster, deeper, and results-driven.
“When will I start seeing change?”
You will start to see patterns shifting within the first 48-hours, and then you'll notice bigger changes within 3-4 weeks. Because the moment you stop running the old pattern… everything around you shifts.
“What support is included?”
You’ll get weekly small group coaching, a personalized Relationship Blueprint Archetype that maps your unique patterns, a review of your archetype and report video sent by Valerie, private support options, on-demand trainings, and guided tools you can use in real time to shift patterns, navigate conflict, and reconnect fast.
“What’s the investment?”
The investment begins at four figures. There are two tailored options depending on how fast you want to move and how much support you would like. We’ll walk you through the options once your application is approved. Payment plans are available. What matters most is that you’re ready to take the lead.
How do I sign up?
- Click the button below to fill out the short application
- We review every application personally to ensure this is the right fit
- If you're a right fit, we'll send you the details or get on a call to answer any questions + send over onboarding details.
Spots are limited to 4-5 clients per month in order to keep this personalized and give you the support you deserve...and the spots go fast. If you're seeing this page, there's still a chance. Don't wait.
What if I have more questions?
I get it! The quality of your relationship determines the quality of your life, happiness, success and health...so it's a really important decision. This is a premium experience for those ready for the breakthroughs they deserve and I want you to feel 100% ready to step in. If you have any questions before applying, DM @valerie.kolick on Instagram or send me an email valerie@valeriekolick.com.
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⚠️ Disclaimer: The information provided on this website are for educational and self-development purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. While my tools are grounded in psychological and relational science, this is not therapy, nor is it intended to treat or manage mental health conditions. If you are experiencing significant distress, trauma, or relationship abuse, please seek support from a licensed therapist or mental health professional. Any statements related to outcomes are examples of what may be possible in the future. Valerie Kolick, M.A., LLC makes no guarantees regarding results, present or future.
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